Blog Talk Radio

Sooooo, I spent a couple hours last night listening (and participating) in The Jaded NYer's talk radio show. First off, I had to listen because I knew Eb and 12kyle were going to have me rolling at their exchanges.
The topic though was "Mars vs. Venus: A Conversation Between Heterosexuals." It was basically a chat amongst adults about communication between the sexes, particularly singles. It would be more appropriate to say the lack of communication between the sexes.
This all got the wheels of my mind turning and I'm wondering, do we as women give off some sort of vibe when we are or are not feeling a dude?
Don't get me wrong, I know there are some subtle things we can do to let a dude know we're interested like giving eye contact and what have you. But, what is it that men see or think they see that let's them know it is OK to approach a woman? This is something I've always wondered and have gotten half-assed answers from my brothers about.
Another blogger, one Mr. Darius T. Williams basically said that women are constantly giving off signals from the perfume we wear to simply saying "hi," and if we don't want the attention, we should stop it. Of course we didn't let him get away with that, but I want to know what you guys think.
Of course this is all a very long story and I'm leaving out parts intentionally so that you guys will go over to the site and listen to the podcast of last night's show.
Because I'm all about examples and using this blog for my own personal benefit, I have a scenario. Feel free to chime in on this or the topic overall.
So, in my quest to become a healthier, happier me, I have joined a gym. I've been going three or four times a week since November. There's a dude who is always there when I'm there. About two weeks ago, I felt someone staring at me while I'm trying to do my few minutes on that dreadful elliptical machine.
I looked up and saw dude staring at me. He smiled, I'm sure I gave him one of those, "what the hell you looking at" faces.
Wouldn't you? I'm in the gym, sweating and breathing hard, let me do my workout and try to holla at me when I look more presentable.
Anyway, now whenever I go, dude is still looking and grinning. What did I do to invite his attention?
Need a visual? Fast forward the video to six minutes.

I Want You Parents ...

... to stop the madness!
The other day, I followed a link from Facebook about a woman who gave birth to twin boys on separate days in separate years. OK, common sense should tell you that one was born on New Year's Eve and the other on New Year's Day.
I would like to send out congrats to both parents. I commend all women who have given birth, that looks like some excruciating stuff that I'm in no hurry to experience.
Of course, with a new baby comes a lot of new responsibilities. Parents have to make sure the kid is fed, clean, healthy and happy. Those are a given right? There is one major responsibility that the parents have that people don't really think a lot about and that is what you name your kid.
These twins names are Tarrence Junior and Tariq. Those aren't that bad. The name I had a problem with is the mom's name. Her name is Tangernika Woods. I lie to you not, her name is Tangernika.
I apologize in advance if any of the following offends you or your mama, but come on people! Is it just me or have we gotten a little out of control with these names. Seriously, ya'll.
When I read her name, my initial thought was that it was clearly made up. And after a thorough Google search, I confirmed that this name is indeed made up. Usually, parents who make up names for their kids combine their names or name a female after her father. Think names like Albertina, Claudette and Jamesina. The only thing I could think of that her parents could have combined to name her after was Tangerine and Tanika and that's not cute.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that she had to name her something as ordinary as Tiffany, but damn! Tangernika? I mean really! People need to realize that your name says a lot about you. It's your calling card, people judge you by it before they meet you. It's not right, but it happens.
Sometimes it can help you but some times it can hinder you. How many intelligent people do you think have been held back because of their name? Let's be real, we can't all be Oprahs, Condoleezas and Baracks. They made it in spite of their names because they are freaking brilliant!
I'm not saying that Shaheed ain't smart, but how many times do you think he'll be discriminated against before he gets his chance?
Naming your kid is not your opportunity to live out your vain fantasies of what you'd name yourself if you had a chance! Name your kid something that will help them get a job that they won't need a college degree to spell!
Keep in mind that naming your child is the only decision you can make for your child that can't be undone. While they can have their name legally changed, you will call them what you named them and so will the family.
"His mama named him Clay, I'm gon' call 'em Clay!"

Merry Christmas ...

From my family to yours, have a very happy and safe holiday season!

Here's a few tunes to help you through your day today. Remember to pause the regular playlist on the right before you start to play this one.
Enjoy!

There's no crying in basketball ...

I guess there is.



In case you didn't watch the video, Glen "Big Baby" Davis proved that he has his nickname for a reason. That dude stomped off to his corner, started crying and threw his towel after hearing some "harsh" words from Kevin Garnett.
Note to KG, "Nobody puts Baby in a corner!"


I thought nothing would would be worse than seeing Terrell Owens cry last year after the scrutiny his quarterback, Tony Romo, faced last year after losing in the first round of the playoffs when he returned from a Mexican vackay with his Space Cadet girlfriend Jessica Simpson.

This though has taken the cake, the ice cream and the damn cherry on top! Crying over some "harsh words" from a teammate? What's next, bitching to the coach that nobody will pass him the ball?
I'm sorry, I just have a thing for overly sensitive men. I can't respect 'em, I never have. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that men should never cry, I'm saying they shouldn't cry about everything. Hell, women shouldn't cry about everything, it has never solved a single problem in your adult life.
When you're a child, you cry when you get upset about something because you can't effectively articulate your feelings. When you're an adult, you cry as a means to show hurt, regret or frustration. Go ahead and argue that Davis was crying out of frustration and I'll argue that his work is called a game and games are supposed to be fun. How many people find work fun?
Since this can be a little confusing, I'll give you a couple of scenarios where crying is acceptable and when it's not.

Cry when:
*you're laughing just that hard
* you're moved by the Holy Spirit
* there's a death of a relative, friend and a pet that you've had more than five years
* you're too broke to pay attention
* Duke Power has turned off your lights and you're about to lose the house
* you get divorced.
* your children are born or there are other major events like graduations and YOUR or your daughter's wedding.
By all means, have at it. Cry, "take your soul to the laundromat" like Lyfe Jennings said.

Do not cry when:
* you get reprimanded at work
*you get criticized
* your team loses a big game
* it is your child's first day of school
* you are in the middle of an argument
* you see a touching movie
* there is something frivolous involved
Honestly, how many more of these dudes do we need?

I'm gonna tell you now, if a dude comes to me crying about nothing, I am subject to laugh in his face and leave him all on the same day. If he's the one crying, when do I have time to be emotional? How is he going to comfort me, with his sensitive ass?!